Where did the time go ?

The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise, than saved by constructive criticisms .. !!!! Interesting quote isn't ?

The last few days flew by so quick that i don't know where did the time go ? so here the synopsis of it as i was nto writing my blog :

Thursday :

Had a hectic day at office and was travelling back home to surprise Papa & Mummy, Isha was happy to see me too.

Friday:

Worked from home and hence was trying to multitask with work and kids. Helped Papa & Mummy with their packing. Discussions related to how to handle a person who never grows up..or wants to grow up ? When will a person be considered matured and should take responsibilities for his/her deeds ? How do you have faith and trust a person when that person never behaves according to his/her age? These discussions make me wonder - why do some people behave the way they should not and do not accept responsibility ?

Saturday:

Mummyji arrived and was lucky to reach UK as she a visa trouble - a lesson learned was be careful of the visa's status when in transit between countries.

Sunday:

Mummy & Papa left today for India and i wish them a safe and happy journey. Shall miss not having them here and Isha will especially miss Nani as she was so used to being with Nani. More than her Nani will miss Isha; Dadi is here but she is reluctant to go and be with Dadi unless one of us are with her. I guess with a little time she will get adjusted with Dadi.

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Life ....journey

"LIFE GIVES ANSWERS IN THREE WAYS
IT SAYS YES AND GIVES WHATEVER U WANT
IT SAYS NO AND GIVES U SOMETHING BETTER
IT SAYS WAIT AND GIVES U THE BEST “

Read the above quote from an interesting forward and hence wanted to share with all.
Yesterday was busy and was too tired, hence missed the blog.

Isha has learned that the dog says, " bow bow "...so cute isn't ! Papa and mommy are leaving this weekend and momji is coming this weekend, arrivals and departures have become part of life and it seems like a constant journey for me every weekend !

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Busy bee

Some days are so busy that you never realise how the time flew by and sometimes you just keep looking at the clock and wonder whether is it moving or stopped. Today was such a hectic day with a 3+ hours long meeting due to which i was not able to complete my pending tasks, so brought home work from office and completed it in the night...phew. So should it be called office work done at home or home work ?

Spoke with Isha & Tana...Isha knows that scarf is to be worn around the neck...her papa taught her :) she very cutely tries to put it around her neck..touch wood. She knows that the comb is not put in the mouth but to your hair. She says thank you in her own language, gives a Hi-five with her hand, gives, hello and understands give & take ; she knows when she wants something she has to cry and she can fake crying too !!! Her current favourite song is "pocket ke mein rocket hain ....from Rocket Singh.

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Assumption

Sometimes what you see and what you hear do not necessarily be the truth. Circumstances, preconceived notions, hearsay etc all contribute towards your assuming certain things when you see something. But when you see & hear impartially and then make your judgement without making any assumptions truth comes out and things are clear. I realised this after i came to know the whole story of the domestic violence episode mentioned last week. So my assumptions came in between which told me the half truth and the other half i assumed ! So lesson learnt is listen to both sides of the story and do not go with any preconceived notions to make a judgement. Iguess that is why the Justice statue's eyes are blind folded so the justice is fair.

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Trip to the Beach

Weekend arrived and i had loads of plans....

Trip to Scarborough Beach:
We went to the Scarborough beach today as my Paa wanted to see UK beach; It was nice trip and thankfully it did not rain. Papa played in the casino and was getting tempted to play more when i dragged him out. I tried riding the bike game and it was fun!
On our way back went to Tana's friend's birthday party. I had plans to go out for dinner after that but then ordered food so on the whole a hectic and fun day. Papa and mom were very tired as we walked a lot and they both are not used to long walks. Actually they should be taking more walks as this is help them keep fit and healthy.

Competitionn

Healthly competition is good but if the competitor competes with a intention to stay ahead and look down upon you then it is not good. Such people will compete in all things to stay ahead, will do less work but claim to be working more. They have a jealousy streak in them which prevents them from being happy for others, they think why is that person getting it and i am not getting it, they compare and feel bad and hence always sad. Beware of such people who call themselves as your friends.

Had a hectic day at work and brought home some documentation to complete but did not do it as was involved in a configuration related issue as per the client requirement. Went out for dinner with friends and so now very tired and sleepy.

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Clean up your conscience !

Character and conscience - character is build by the circumstances and environment in which one were brought up during their childhood and by the values, culture imparted through parents, elders, teachers and role models. Talking of conscience it is interlinked to character in a way that if you value truthfulness as a quality then your conscience will not permit you to say lies and will question you when you are in doubt and fear. Similarly if you are truthful to your conscience it will reflect in (building) your character. Both of them are interdependent and one cannot be complete without the other. The character of the person will help to decide whether he/she is good or bad and as no one is perfect everyone will have their pros and con. Interesting topic ...hain na...this was discussed on AB's log and i gave my above views with some alterations. Many people wrote interesting answers...worth reading!

Important Baat :
An remark made by Tana at this age left me wondering as to how maturely she thinks....Isha was crying and Tana was disturbing her and trying to make her laugh but Isha did not like it, so i asked Tana to stop it and leave her alone...for which she replied," sab se important baat hain ki woh ro hai hain " this left me speechless as she was trying to pacify Isha in her own sweet way and taught me lesson !

The official matter which was ongoing discussion has come to a positive note and i am happy but their is still a clause remaining which will have a long term impact on me financially hence i continue to fight for it. Please pray that it is resolved soon.

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Silence and anger

Money matters are irritating and mundane, but then you realise that without it you cannot live in today’s world and sometimes it decreases your value and importance if you don’t have the financial backing, that hurt’s a lot. What i hate most is people giving importance to money over relationships and measuring everything in monetary terms. How is wish i could change those people’s thinking, but all i can do is pray that god gives them some sense.

Silence and time will help you get over your anger and one must learn to control their tongue and anger. When one is angry it is better to keep silent rather than say things which would make matters worse and make one repent later. To decide who is wrong and who is right can be sorted out later when the minds are relaxed and cooled off...think about it. I know many may disagree with my approach but i think sometimes silence is best weapon to use to handle difficult situations.

What to write and how to describe it i don't understand ? I wish i could do something to stop it. If only i had known something of this nature will happen i could have interfered and stopped. A small argument turning into big argument and then crossing the limits. Domestic violence still prevails and it existing among educated people is shocking. Heard it happened to a friend and i was numbed for a while as i was too shocked to react, how can someone be so brutal and uncaring and then go and apologise for the brutalness ? How callous is a man to treat is spouse in such manner ? I have lost respect for such a man for his callousness. I had watched it as a child among the poorer sections of the society where the people involved where illiterates and treated their spouse as their property, but in today's modern world, seeing it abroad is shocking. I hope and pray the God give sense in the people who resort to domestic violence and abuse the vows given to their spouse.

Isha was not feeling well as she had a runny nose and slight temperature, this worried me and I hope she feels better soon. She got loads of wishes from all my friends on the social networking site.

My nephew under went a major surgery yesterday and is out of danger now, hearing his news scared me to death. My wishes and prayers are with him for a speedy recovery.

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Happy birthday Isha !

Happy Birthday to Isha...she is one today ! How time flies one never knows as it feesl she was born just few days ago and now she is running in her walker. Isha wore the frock her Nanu & Nani got for her and looked like a angel. Had a small party at home with cake, samosa's and tea. Isha had little cake and her "doodu". Mummy made yummy kheer which Isha enjoyed; we all had chole, chapati, peas pulao and aloo chaat. Bought a card for Isha which we all signed and shall preserve it to show to her. I have taught Isha to give high-five and a handshake, she also says thank you in her gibberish language.

Due to the hectic weekend did not plan anything elaborate, felt bad about it as could not do much due to paucity of time :( Hope Isha will not mind and understand when she grows up! Papa blew the balloons and i did the decoration last night for Isha's birthday and she loved the balloons and played with them. When she burst a balloon she did not understand what happened and kept searching for it all around her.

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Trip to Birmingham !

Saturday:
The weekend started early with a trip to Birmingham, Balaji temple in Dudley. After darshan went to Bullring which is a shopper's paradise and shopped till we dropped...literally :) we were so tired that we just wanted drop everything and relax ! It was nice meeting my old colleague and catching up with him. Had delicious lunch at "Maharaj" restaurant and enjoyed every bit. Met Deepu bhaiya, who gave the lunch treat and then took Papa with him to Coventry.

I & the kids reached home and relaxed. Isha enjoyed the attention and loved her outing, as she didn't have to walk and i was carrying her ! Tana & Sai got along very well and played all time.

Sunday:
Had a yummy dosas for breakfast, it was a bright sunny day after such a long time and the kids enjoyed the break at home. In the evening reached Leeds very late as missed the train, the next train got delayed and last train was cancelled and replaced by a bus .....phew! Thank god i had packed Isha's dinner with us. But the good thing about the whole episode was Papa got to take the bus ride he had been waiting to take, long distance bus ride in UK!


Lesson learnt: Book your taxi in advance when travelling with kids and also do not think twice about taking two taxis when one is not available to meet your requirements !

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Weekend !

Friday...arrival of weekend and the time to spend with family, do pending chores, take planned trips and relax....hopefully! Everybody love weekend and look forward to it. Wonder how do people who work in rotating shifts and roosters feel about weekend.

Finished reading John Grisham's "The Partner" - interesting book as deals with lawyers and how they can use the law to their planning through skillful planning. I like the way JG writes as gives a lot of input into the legal systems and their working. Lawyers and people interested in law should read his books.

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Pending tasks

When you keep postpoing some tasks for later because of some dependency and keep accumulating them, suddenly one day you realise you have so much to do and no time to finish it ! Something similar happened today when i was looking at the official project work and wondered how will we meet the deadline ...phew. Allllllllllll is well, i tell myself and prioritise and complete the tasks.

Mom was telling that Isha has understood the meaning of the word "garam" and goes and touches the heaters when we say garam. She know that a comb is used to comb the hair and puts it to her hair, earlier she would put it in her mouth but not now.....touch wood my sweetie pie i shall see her tomorrow. Amazing how babies learn things just by watching and listening to others.

I have made some plans for the weekend hope they all go as planned ! Isha's First birthday is on Monday and i have to plan out how we will celebrate it, if i was in India i would have planned things so much in advance and given invitations by now and it would have been loads of fun. But being abroad i have to plan in a different way as i am working and also living away :(

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Baby sitting Isha....

Alllllllllllllll Is well works...as the major technical glitch which has been ongoing since last 2 months got resolved today and i had the important official discussion which was pending ! I pray and hope the terms and conditions agreed earlier i.e. 2 years ago shall prevail and only then will i be happy. I shall use this phrase more often now:)

I called home to check on kids when learned that my Papa was baby sitting Isha, as Mom had gone to buy vegetables. Tana teased Isha and she started crying and my Papa was trying to console and pacify her when i called, i felt very empathetic towards him as he has no experience in handling babies and here he was baby sitting Isha !!! Isha is lucky is many ways coz when she was in Kolkata she got her oil massage done by Ajji (her great Grandmother) daily and now her Nanu is baby sitting her which he has never done to his own kids i.e. us :) I guess with age, place and time, things change and so do people.

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All is well !

The important official discussion for which i was waiting did not take place today and so i have to wait till tomorrow, hope all goes well. In the movie "3 Idiots " they have used the term "all is well" with a desi touch to it and it sounds very sweet and i shall try using it when tensed :0) let's see how it works...

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Snowy Monday Morning !

It was snowing and the roads were very slippery which caused traffic congestion and delays in getting a taxi and hence i reached office late. The work progressed well later and manage to do lot related to an interface development.

Children today do not have value for things as they get all things without asking and the parents today tend to pamper and fulfill their every demand, it so easy for kids to ask for things without knowing the cost implications. The children should be taught the value for each and everything and carefully use them this will inculcate good habit of preserving things and maintaining them.

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Lakhsya

Papa made chole today which were yummy and had a heavy lunch with puri and chole. Watched bits of Lakshya movie....i like the movie and the message it tries to convey. Farhan Akhtar is a good director and i like watching his movies. Dil Chatha hain was ultimate, i love the way he directs and does not overdo things. Simple way with simple story and strong message.

The weekend goes by so soon you hardly get time to relax....just busy doing all the regular chores and pending work ! So i was busy too and by the time i finished it was time for me to leave. Thankfully it did not snow and the trains were running on time and i reached safely.

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Snow snow everywhere

I changed 4 trains to reach home yesterday because many trains were delayed and cancelled due to the snow and reached home late :( the kids had slept and i did not want to disturb them. Watched a movie and hence missed writing my blog yesterday.

Was a relaxed day and housekeeping lady had come today to do the work so i was handling the kids and cooking. My plans to got to Birmingham this week had to be cancelled due to the weather conditions. Life seems to be routine and nothing exciting happening, i am looking forward to Isha's first birthday, have to start planning to organise it.

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Happy Birthday Sister

Today is my sister's birthday and i was not able to speak with her as i had her old mobile number and by the time i thought i will get the new mobile number and call it was too late :( She lives in far away land and so we don't get to meet that often but we do try to catch up on the phone regularly and update ourselves. As kids we would fight a lot, argue and always be on the opposite sides, our mom always warned us that we would miss each other a lot when we grow up, that seem impossible then but now seems so true....i was always telling my sibling to do something or other which i think made them think of me as "Hitler" but then i was telling for improvement, and never minded the comment.

My sister is quite ambitious, daring and a go getter, if she sets her eye on a task then she will achieve it. She is very hard working and a no nonsense person with a short temper. . She has the distinction of many firsts in our family history - like first to study abroad, first to study law and earn a gold medal and so on. She is choosy about her friends and believes in having few friends. She is very cautious about trusting anyone and can think of all the impossible things which could happen in the entire world. She takes tension very soon and sometimes worries about trivial things.

She has beautiful eyes and has been compared with many bollywood actresses. She manages all her financial and household chores with equal elan and amazes me. She has a very good dressing and fashion sense which me and my hubby admire. She loves trying out new food and loves experimenting with her cooking. She is big hearted person and generous in her relations. I pray and hope god gives her all the happiness, health and good luck in life as she deserves it. My best wishes & love to her on her birthday ! I miss you and our chat & gossip sessions on the phone :( Let's catch up soon.

The temperature today was -7 and it was freezing as we waited for the cab, the cold here is bitter cold and inspite of wearing the gloves it feels cold, i hope the temperatures improves in the coming week.

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If only....

If only one could revert back decisions which have a long term financial impact...by choosing to opt for going to India last year has altered the official deputation letter's terms and conditions, if only i had known the implications i would have opted to stay here. This has upset me :(

Babies have carefree and have a fearless attitude. They are not afraid of anyone or anything, always open to challenges, want to explore all the things around them, wish that would remain with them as they grow into adults.

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:0) ....Average :0->

It was a hectic day at work and I did not have time to do my official mail which i have been postponing from last 2 days. Received a phone call from a old friend and it was nice speaking to him and catching up with him. Also received a happy and surprising news from a dear one. Over all an average day.

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Work Overload

The last two weeks went smoothly because it was holiday time and now that everyone is back we have work overload and need to work late to meet the deadlines.

Love Mohit Chauhan's songs and his voice sounds very romantic and soothing, i love listening to his songs.

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Eve teased abroad

First time eve teased in UK when a group of 6-8 guys (18-22yr) tried to scare me, passed comments as i was rushing to the train station, i didn't bother or get scared, i turned to give them a dirty look when the guy slipped and fell on the road, his friends laughed..I sternly asked, " R U ALRIGHT? after which they backed off & didn't bother me! Thanked my guarding angel (wherever & whoever he/she is) Was surprised at my coolness in handling the situation and felt proud of myself.

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House keeping and routine !

It was day of cleaning, scrubbing and housekeeping. As my help had not come i had to do all the cleaning which i did not mind as the satisfaction one gets when the house looks neat and clean, its a bliss to the eyes.

Isha has become very naughty and she loves challenging us with her antics and doing the things which we ask her not to do. She has learnt to climb the stairs and managed to climb 2 -3 steps with support from her nani. Her second teeth has started to show and when she giggles she looks cute...touchwood. She is very calm and happy playing by herself and enjoys it. But when Tana is around she imitates her, shouts and yells like her. We need to teach Tana to be calm and quiet so that Isha will follow her :0)

I was thinking i have not done many of the things i generally do on the New year's day - like calling all relatives, mailing all my friends, getting up early etc i actually don't know why but may slowly do them.

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Happy New Year 2010

A very Happy New year 2010 to one all. Begin the new year by watching a good movie "3 Idiots" it was funny and gave a message to be what you want to be and follow your dreams, do what you love and are passionate about then work will never be boring. I hope parents who watch the movie get the message. Have not thought about any new year resolutions so far but shall try and write my blog daily :)

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