God's plans...

Friday :
It was a hectic day and i was looking forward to see the kids on Friday evening....but the train got delayed and i reached home late, by then the kids had slept and i did not want to wake them.........so much for all the waiting :(

Saturday:
Had the regular bath sessions of Isha & Tana, Isha enjoys her bath sessions and she looks cute after her hair wash as her hair are curly and look lovely. Tana has straight hair and she likes curly hair !!

Sunday:
Back to place of work to get into the weekly schedule. Met a doctor in the train and he has around 20+ cousins who are all doctors in his family and he was brainwashed into becoming a doctor ! Now is that good or bad ....debatable, isn't ? Because parents want their children to do things which would lead them in the right direction and benefit them, sometimes they want to fulfill their dreams through their children. But then what happens to the child's dream ? Now this can be debated with both pros and cons. Some might favour the parents and some may favour the child, so i would like to put forward a favourite quote of Amitabh's told to him by his father, " Jo maan ka ho so acha par jo maan ka na ho woh bahut acha ....kyon ki usme uparwale (God) ki marzi shamil hain aur ashirwaad hain" . In simple words things which don't happen according to your wish/plans are better as they have been designed for you by God....think over it.

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Waiting...

Waiting for things to happen...life is full of incidents which are spend waiting, from the moment one arrives in the world after the nine month :childhood - waiting to growing up, studying - waiting for the results, getting a job--waiting for the right offer, getting married...waiting for the right girl/boy, family- waiting to start a family...the list and the waiting is endless. Right from starting your day on a Monday morning to seeing your kids on Friday evening (esp for me) the wait for the weekend to complete pending tasks ...wait goes on and on, to sum it up we can conclude that life is waiting for the journey of each day and every year to happen which brings new challenges everyday and teaches something new.

Tana got upset with Isha as she was disturbing her and she slapped Isha !!! Yes and later in the evening Isha pulled Tana's hair !!! Isha is the bully but you cannot explain things to her as she is too small will not understand :( So we scold Tana and ask her to behave. Isha is becoming so adamant that when she did not get what she wanted from her Dadi she pulled her har too!!! How do i handle her...gosh abhi se yeh haal hain toh pata nahin bade ho kar kya goonda gardi karegi !

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Sachin Tendulkar....Love you

Sachin Tendulkar became the first person in cricket's history to score a double century in One day matches........WOWW i was so happy after hearing the news i called my father-in law and congratulated (cricket & Sachin fan) him and talked about the match. Informed all my friends and was so happy that as if i had achieved the centuries myself :) I even informed my British colleagues who don't follow cricket and don't know who Sachin is !!!!

The day was good and the work is picking up pace and soon will be loads as the realization phase of the project will start and things will be running according to a deadline. I like it that way makes you look forward to go to office as the work becomes challenging.

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Duty & responsibility

Would like to share with all - beautifully written lines described by Amitabh Bachchan in his blog about his parents trip to UK with him in 70's:

Driving my parents in UK and back had been a moment of great happiness. Happiness to observe the look of great delight and satisfaction for my Father, who was returning to his days in Cambridge and England in 1952-54 after more than 25-30 years !! The times and environment then, the times and environment now. His struggles then with meagre resources, my joy now in providing him gainful facility. Nothing in the world compares with the satisfaction a child derives when he provides for his parents. We live and strive for this one moment in life ; when we can through our own ability and strength, give to them that brought us into this world, the very best we can. To comfort and support them. To look after them. To rid them of any old age anxiety. To care and provide them with every need of life. To give them the joy of companionship and family. To live and exist under their leadership as the head. To seek their blessings each day before we set out and to come back for it, after an achievement. To just sit beside them and hold their hand. Giving them the reassurance of our presence and love and to receive from them that soft touch of their divine presence.Gone from our lives now, physically, but in our hearts forever, with their blessings and love.

I found the above lines so true i shared with all near & dear ones through email and now on the blog - now the question it is so true and so much to be learned from it to give back to your parents in the best way possible. But most of us today are so busy with our lives that we take our parents for granted…and forget to acknowledge them for all the things they have done and in turn keep burdening them with new demands and new requests...I am ashamed to say that i do that sometimed and never thank them enough for all the things they did/do for me and i keep my (family)priorities first....Is it because i am a girl and stay away from them? Or is it that i have changed with time ? I am not sure but then after reading the above lines i pondered for a long while and asked myself how many kids are actually doing it ? And how many sons/daughters are actually fulfilling their duties ? Zara soch ke dekho ...

Hectic day !!!

Hectic day and it flew by very soon and i did not even realise it. I only got chance to speak with the kids in the evening and that too for a little while...Isha was her usual self and get blabbering something, Tana was complaining about Isha :)

I have not heard anything in response to my written appeal from my senior so i am confused how should be my next step ?

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Golden hair !

The weekend goes in a whooossshhh...i never understand how does it get over so soon :( It was a nice weekend with the Kids & hubby. Hubby dear was very nice and sweet and got me flowers which was very romantic...touch wood.

Isha is very demanding, aggressive and wants things her ways !! She dominates on Tana and starts crying for every little thing. The moment she saw me enter the house she was so excited like a little puppy and was moving on the sofa from one end to another and calmed when i took her in my arms. The moment she was in my arms she started scolding her Dadi for no reason ....she is very chalu ! Tana said " mummy mera and Isha ke baal golden kar doo.."i asked why, she said because she liked it and one of her friend in school had golden hair !

Mummyji was not feeling that well and that is bit of concern as she was having high BP. Hope & pray she gets well soon.

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Hope

With lot of expectation i had written the mail but have not got any response from him not even an acknowledgement so what to expect ....I don't know :(/ Let's hope and pray aall is welllllll and things shall fall in order.

It started snowing today and the temperatures went in minus - so I am worried about my travel tomorrow. Let's hope and pray aall is welllllll and train will run without delay.

My Official document i was not able to release as my manager had few doubts which need to be clarified from his manager ! Let's hope and pray aall is welllllll and will find the resolution.

Admist all these apprehensions and delays hubby dear send a romantic poem across ...which was a pleasant surprise and made me feel aall is welllllll (will be).

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Courage

As there is not much work at office because of the pending decisions from business i did not feel like going to the office....yes it is very rare that i get this kind of a feeling but it did come today morning!

Finally mailed the HR head...after a lot of thinking, deliberations, discussions and hesitance fearing the outcome of the mail. So prayed to God that aall is well (shall be ) and send the mail. Now my fingers and toes are crossed till i know the outcome, so please do pray for me. I got the courage to do it after reading about the citizen journalist who are fighting against the system single handed and trying to bring change in their lives and of others. The issue here is about my right and i should be able to fight for it without any fear. As they say in Bhagvad Gita. do not think of the result/fruits rather do your work with commitment. Please do pray for me.

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Work load

Lot of decisions are pending from the business which has slowed our work in office and decreased our workload.

Get to hear about Tana & Isha's antics daily and also that Isha will be more naughty than Tana and grow up to be fearless....just like me ;) but than i was not naughty !

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Role play

Saturday :
The kids were very happy to receive their Valentine's gift and played with them. I had bought a Chess board as a gift for my hubby dear which was not accepted that well because of its build and size...that was a bit disappointing.
As planned went and watched the movie "My name is Khan" - it could have been a wonderful movie minus the last 30 minutes which were stretched too long, i liked Shah Rukh's acting and the songs are good. I am happy that the movie ran to house full shows in Mumbai, shows the true spirit of the Mumbaites against the political party threat...well done Mumbai.

Sunday:
Finally went to meet my friend and Tana's classmate's mom and got the self grooming done which makes me happy and my face clearer :)
There was a discussion about the role play of the husband and wife and are they equal ? Good question as still they are not treated as equal and the wives are expected to work more than the husbands simply because it is a male dominating society and we have to do the household chores as it is our duty - I don't agree with this and think that husbands should also contribute equally as wives do when the wife also works and contributes to support the family. Just because they are doing all the financial investments, paying bills, managing the paper work etc does not give them exception to contribute towards the household chores - don't wives do the cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children, weekly grocery, changing the weekly bedsheets etc etc which are all work too...how does the make them any less contributor ? One can argue that these are non productive work and can be ignored or delegated, but then who will do them as these are equally important for the running of the house and the family ...isn't ? The argument can be extended further but i see no point in arguing if the other side is not willing to listen ! So one has to think of other ways to convey the point.

I was upset yesterday for no reason and did not quite feel like writing the blog and hence missed it . Belated Happy Valentine's day to all.

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Weekend !!

I was so excited and looking forward for the weekend to come to reach home and be happy, the kids are happy to see me and i am very happy to see them, but the hubby dear seem irritated about something which was disappointing :(

I shall go to watch "My name is khan" tomorrow whatever the review of the film, coz i like Shah Rukh and want to show my support to him :)

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Reading

Tana is taught phonetics at school because of which she tries to spell the words through the way they are pronounced, the result is now she can read things and sometimes need our help. I find it amazing that she has begun reading at such a young age and understands what she is reading, i am proud mommy !! God bless her.

I think i had learned to read at the age of 8-9 years and mostly it was restricted to my school books and nothing outside. But as i was growing i started reading comics and then in intermediate shifted to reading fiction novels beginning with M& B which were quite addictive and then got bored after the 6-7th book. Then read all "Sidney Sheldon", followed by all "Jeffery Archer", turning to classics like "Fountain Head". There was no turning back and have been reading ever since, have compiled a small library at my parent's home and it has books for all age group. Few of my favourite books are, Love Story, God Father, Bridges of Madison County, Da Vinci Code, Doctors, Fried green tomatoes, Pride & prejudice, Astrix & Obelix, Memoirs of Geisha, As the crow flies; Now i can pass those books to Tana and get her hooked to reading all books and shall take her to the library too.

Had a hectic day at office and happy that weekend is around the corner as i get to see the kids and spend time with them. I plan to see "My name is Khan " too

Crush & Admirer

Talking about all the old crushes and the fan following one had during the school and college days can be funny now but when it actually happened it seemed so scary and hep :) Was discussing about all the guys who had fallen for me and went to great lengths to get my attention ..those were the days i would not bother and ended up making most of them as my "bhaiya" coz that was the only way to make them run away !! I guess i handled most of them pretty well except for a one for whom i had to take my friends help to scare the guy because he scared me by the way he stared all the time. I guess many of us can share the funny incidents that most of us have experienced and laugh it off !

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Gift

Valentine's day is around the corner and so i did some purchasing today for the hubby dearest and hope he will like it as he is been wanting to buy it since a long time. Got to think of gifts for the little angels who are becoming naughtier by the day and giving us all a hard time :)

Isha can fake crying and starts crying if we don't give her the things she wants, she can hit you too if you don't listen to her commands. When mummyji closed her sipper nozzle as she was throwing the water, she started hitting mummy with the sipper !!! Yes this is latest antic my angel has done.

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News !!!

I have been out of touch with the happenings around the world because I don't read the newspaper and i do not watch the news channel, i know it is shameful but there was a time i would not sleep till i had read the newspaper ! So now i have decided to read the web news daily at least for 5-10 minutes to update myself.

Looking forward to MNIK...the trailers are so moving i am sure it will be a good movie. And it is always a pleasure to watch Kajol with Shah Rukh !

Is it sometimes good to be silent than tell the truth ? What do people who do not lie do when they don't want to share the truth and at the same time not lie ? Silence is the answer or to tell that you are not sure and cannot comment on it.

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News.........Tadka maar ke !!!

Saw RANN movie today and it showed the true colours of the news manipulation. It was a very thought provoking film and AB was amazing as always. The dialogues were very powerful and the acting was very good by all the actors. News.....tadka maar ke, yes this is how news channels show news theses days...they should be ashamed of calling themselves as news channels. Advertisements should be banned from the news channels and they should be barred from supporting any political parties. They should only show the news.

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My kids...

I was too tired yesterday and missed writing the blog as had a hectic day and was up very early and so after ages went to bed at 10..Yes 10 pm.

Weekend arrives and i was home with the kids, Isha was so happy to see me and kept talking to me in her gibberish, touching me and hugging me, lapped onto to me like a puppy. I guess she was happy to see me and thought someone she knew has come back :0) She was showing selfless love and was playing with me till she went to bed. Tana was her giggling self asking "mera liye kya liyee ho". Kids are sweet, show their emotions and love and don't hide things like adults. What you see is what you get from them

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Regionalism

I support Shah Rukh Khan in his response to Shiv Sena - Mumbai is for all Indians and they cannot say it is restricted to Marathi manus...I think the whole bollywood industry should get together and support him as he did not say anything wrong and was working towards "Aman ki asha" when he made a statement related to Pakistani players. All the people of Mumbai should stand with him and support him. Regional differences should not be brought at a state level and create bitterness among people. People should be allowed to pursue their careers in the state of their choice anywhere in India. Otherwise it will create regional indifference among people as they exist abroad which we refer as racism. This is a very sensitive topic and a lot can be debated about it, but the view which brings a greater cause and unity should be supported by all.

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Perceptions of person

Sometimes i wonder how do people view others based on the circumstances and with time : This happens especially when you are falling in love or newly married when anything your loved one says seems sweet, funny, romantic and lovely, all bad habits also seem fine and you are willing to defend the person for everything he/she does with others. But this golden phase last for a 5-6 months or maximum one year and by then you have known that person for long and are more open/casual with them. You start seeing faults only after you have had an argument, fight or disagreement or when you are upset with them. You remember every bad word exchanged, things which hurt you, which you did not like about them. Things they missed or did not do, all the faults of that person start showing and work like ammunition to fuel your anger. Then you see all the imperfections and come back into the real world but by then its too late as you cannot change things and accept them. But when all is well between you and the person all you see is the good things, good points, habits etc and forgive them for their faults. Isn't the human mind amazing...a small argument changes your perception and forgiveness puts a balm to the wound.

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Lucky escape...

Today was a hectic day and was busy trying to complete a important document for a technical development.

Isha has started accepting Dadi as she sees nobody is at home to listen to her other than Dadi, its amazing how kids adjusts themselves so quickly and accept everyone.

Yesterday I was lucky as the taxi i came in escaped an accident because of the quick thinking and fact action by the Taxi driver, god bless him and thank god for averting the accident. I did not realise the impact of it till today morning !

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